I need dating/guy advice!!!!!!!!?

I'm going to a dance with this guy, and we're like, totally opposites. And I'm afraid that he's going to try something with me, and if he doesn't, or I don't let him, I'm afraid he's going to have a really boring time. This is one of the first real dates I've been on, and I don't know what to do! I'm afraid he's going to want to grind too, and I don't want to do that either! I don't mean to sound like a party-pooper or anything, but I just really need some good advice! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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1. just be upfront with him what is a go or isn't..if he pitches a fit then to heck with him..you don't need him to have a good time.
2. just be real nice to him
3. well I suggest that you get sick that day really.
4. Don't do what your not compfortable doing and if he has a problem with that...it's his problem. Let him deal with it BY HIMSELF! LOL. Maybe he'll wise up then and give you the respect you deserve.
5. men are above you, do his bidding.
6. aww. im sry. listen, what id do, is let him go a little bit. just relax! but don't let him 2 far! that'd be bad! be cool.
7. slow dance first get comfortable, let him know what you like and don't like. Easy street, be openly honest. If he won't listen then what's the point of dancing with him if he'll make you upset and super uncomfortable.
8. Sweetie...don't do anything you will regret in the morning.
9. If you have older brothers tell them, they know what to do, if he puts his hands on you and you dont like it kick him in the ballz and then tell your older brothers. If these options fail tell daddy and he will kick him in the ballz.
10. Have fun! You can have fun without crossing your own boundaries. Also, insist that he respect them as well. If he doesn't respect you, then he is a waste of your time. Just relax, be yourself and expect to have a good time. If he's bored, that's his problem, not yours. You are his date on his free entertainment.
11. just hang out...do stuff..go places...talk...listen to music...see some friends...and let him know what you are into and what you aren't into...if he likes hanging out with you, everything will be ok. If he doesn't like hanging with you...well, then who really cares what he thinks when you tell him you don't want to grind???
12. Most likely he's nervous too and won't do anything weird, have fun and enjoy the dance, and if he makes you uncomfortable at times just let him know and if he doesn't stop just don't dance with him.
13. just tell him whats on your mind. if he has a problem with what you are telling him give him his walking papers and feel sorry for the next girl that isnt going to say no
14. Don't "False Advertise" and you won't have a problem. Maybe you should suggest going with another couple - a couple that you are friends with. That way you won't have to be alone with him all the time and you'll have someone else looking out for you. Don't feel peer pressured into anything you don't want to do... it's not worth it. Don't accept ANY unwanted physical contact... you won't be sending him mixed messages that way. Take care of yourself and mostly - HAVE FUN!
15. Honey, if you don't want to do something with him, then don't. Don't let him pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. He needs to respect you, and respect your wishes. You're not a party-pooper, you're a girl who knows what she wants and what she doesn't want. Remember that you deserve his respect. You deserve someone who respects you. If he won't, then he doesn't deserve you.
16. First of all, never do anything that you don't want to do, especially just to please somebody else! Secondly, if you have it in your head that you two are complete opposites, then you might as well not even go on the date, because you will have that mind frame all night. Instead, look at the things that you have in common! You both have a crush on each other right? You are both totally nervous about this dance coming up! Instead of focusing on what you think he might be expecting, try thinking out different things that you can talk about! Movies, TV, hobbies, school... anything! And if by some chance this guy is a jerk, then stand up for yourself, and don't give in. In fact, if people hear that u stand up for yourself, they will respect you SO much more! And who knows, it could even get the attention of some other really cute guys who are into women who respect themselves!
17. dont worry so much about the negatives. try to make tha best of any situation that comes ur way. take a deep breath. things will b fine. have fun!!