How do I tell him?
so I have been dating this guy, and we have fun together. but he wants all my free time and ALWAYS wants to hang out. I am a private person and I move slow with my heart in relationships. Also, my little sister passed away two months ago, so I have a lot going on with myself and family. Everytime we hang out, and I have to leave. He asks me to hang out that night, or right after work. I find myself making excuses day in and day out. Why cant I just tell him I dont want to hang out every minute I am free? Serious advice only please. Thanks. P.s. I do like to hang out as much as anyone else, like 4 times a week when I am dating.I just cant be around the same person every day all day.
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- Just tell him that you need your space.
- Just tell him NO, as in youve got other things to do in your life besides be with him, but be sweet about it since he appears to be good to you and you say you have fun together, people have to learn that other people need some space. I think he will oblige you if you just say so.
- you have to be up front and tell him how you feel
- Hun, you will need to tell him you need some personal space (as everyone does!) and that even thgouh you love him, you have other things going on in your life and that you cannot devote all your free time for him. If he is unable to live with it, then leave him. Good luck.
- I agree with Dani. Tell him you need some space, it's nothing personal, you just have stuff to do. If he's worth his b@lls he'll be understanding. BTW, is this the same guy you asked about the other day, the one who acted in a less than civilized manner at the bar? If so honey, I think you really need to be recognizing the signs of a controlling personality. Don't set yourself up for a lifetime of pain and sorrow. He might be fun 85% of the time, but that time when he makes you feel upset or anxious will only increase the longer you're with him:-( Sorry, just trying to speak from experience.
