Single Parents, need some advice please?

what do you do if you want to date someone when you have a child. i mean, do you introduce them to your child? my kid is 10, i like this person, but am afraid of the whole getting involved, bringing my kid into it. please help. what are your tips and what do you do regarding love and a romantic relationship. thanks

Public Comments

1. You're actually asking if they should know about your child? Your child should be the first thing you mention. That way, if they can't deal with it, they can walk away without hurting you.
2. I have yet to introduce a man to my kids. It isn't about my kids - dating is about me. If the guy and I decide we want to marry - then (and ONLY then) would I involve my kids. DO NOT let your kids know him until you are certain he is forever. Sure, if you break up - you'll be sad but your kids will be rejected by a father figure and it will mess them up. They won't get it when "Doug" no longer comes to games or has dinner with you anymore. DON'T do it. You will hurt them in ways you can't undo - they aren't adults - they don't understand this stuff. Protect your child. If he is a good man - he will agree with you on this 100% as he will want what is best for your child as well.
3. I would not introduce a date to my child. Men are slime bags and they think women who already have children are desperate and will screw anything. Meet him somewhere, but definitely keep him away from your 10 yr old for at least the 1st 10 or 20 dates.
4. The way I see it--you should only bring the person into the family if you know it's getting serious. If you've been on two dates, then no. If you've been seeing the person for a few months and you think it could potentially end in marriage, then you can introduce. Keep the contact brief and don't allow anyone to move in unless there is a ring involved.
5. i waited until i knew for sure that i was in love with the person. i also knew for sure that he and i had the same goals for our relationship. but some say i went overboard. i dont think so. her father has gotten 3 women pregnant since our divorce of 5 years. he has involved my daughter in all of that. he now only speaks to one of those girls now and my daughter is crushed. she still talks about her x stepmom and a brother she barely knew. make sure he is a keeper and he thinks you are as well. children need security.
6. I really think you should introduce your kid to this person,If you don't he/she will become suspicious of what your intension are , by doing it this way, If it doe's become serious it will make this transition allot easier.