Falsely accused of rape, now my life has been completely destroyed, can anyone help or give advice?
When I was 18, I was totally in love with this girl. One day she called me up and invited me over to her house. We were hanging out in her room, getting drunk, and she started making out with me (I was a completely virgin, this was my first kiss, and first everything else). She told me to finger her, and I did, with her basically guiding me through it. After that she said I should go because her mom was going to be home soon. I left feeling like the kind of the god damned world. Anyway the next day my best friend called me up, acting all hostile and strange. He said he needed to see me. I say "sure," and go to meet him. He's there with the rest of our group of friends (the girl was in our little clique but she wasn't there). They stand around me and accuse me of raping her. I was beyond shocked. I asked them what the f**k they were talking about and they said the girl called up my best friend crying saying I got her drunk (it was her booze) and forced myself on her. Then they beat the sh!t out of me pretty badly. Anyway that was three years ago. I lost all my friends, and word got around that I was a rapist. It went on my criminal record, and getting a job became pretty much impossible; also my parents effectively disowned me and refused to give any kind of financial assistance. I'm not even allowed to stay at their house. No one believed me when I said I was innocent. I was expelled from university (Yale). I couldn't go out in public where I lived for fear of people attacking me. I moved away eventually but I still couldn't leave my apartment (until I was evicted). I have nightmares about the whole thing. Oh, and about six months after the incident, the girl and my best friend started dating. Man, I don't get chicks. What the hell am I supposed to do? I can't get a job (not from lack of trying), I'm more than 70k in debt thanks to the useless university, I was just evicted from my apartment, have few possessions other than clothes and sentimental items.... I don't even have money for food. I'm homeless. I have been doing EVERYTHING possible to get back on my feet, but society has completely rejected me; I'm stuck. I'm 20 years old, I'm smart and educated, I'm in my prime, but my life has been completely destroyed due to baseless claims by a woman, and society's inability to look beyond gender political correctness. In lieu of the facts, if it's just a guy's claim vs. a girl's claim, the girl is always believed, no matter what. As a result my only real prospects are more homelessness, poverty, and an early death. I've asked for help from MANY people and organizations, but no one will because they don't believe that I'm innocent. WHAT THE HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO DO NOW???? Thank you very much in advance for advice/responses... Feel free to email me at irving.lance@yahoo.com if you need to. -Lance Some have suggested that I should have gotten a lawyer, but I had nowhere near enough money for that.
Public Comments
- Sad story. Is there a way to open the case again to get back at her? At worst case, you can write your own story and try to have it published. I have heard other cases of girls behaving irresponsibly and then blame the guy.
