Teen dating. Parental Advice Please.?

I have a 15 year old son who has fallen in love with a girl he met online. They have only met once and I have talked to the girls mother. It seems as if the girl comes from a bad family. Her father left when she was young and she is left on her alone alot. My question is, do I let my son continue to go to her house, even though he will be walking into a foreign place.

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1. bad.
2. Have the girl come to your house.
3. Well all you need to worry about is Sex because that can deeply affect their temptation with no Parental Supervision. I suggest you second your opinion on this. It could be very dangerous.
4. Well considering it's your son, I don't think it would be bad to let him go, if something bad happens, I'm sure he can defend himself.
5. nope
6. Why not? You don't like foreigners? Are you a nationalist then? Weird
7. No. Do not let him. Sounds like big trouble very fast. He needs to develop real life relationships.
8. you have to let him go, let him see her. she isnt contagious, her bad life wont drag its way into yours. for all you know she could be the sweetest girl ever. dont make judgments on what her parents have done.
9. I wouldn't forbid him from going, because he'll just become rebelious. I'd have a good talk with him, because you can't keep sheltering him from these types of things.
10. let teh girl coom ovuh to yo place gnome sayin mooda fookuh?
11. i wouldnt do that have him bring the girl over your place its a lot safer andddd he won't be mad at you for not letting him hang with her
12. dont let him go there if she coems from a bad family let her come to your house.
13. Just because she comes from a bad family does not mean she is bad. I know plenty of people who come from awful backgrounds that have turned out to be amazing people. If you have concerns about him going to her house maybe get him to invite her to your house instead? She may be looking for a way to escape her family for a while.
14. I wouldn't let the son go to her house. I'd take them out and supervise visits to your house.
15. omg i met my boyfriend online when he was 15 hes 18 now!! we're engaged!! omg i came from a bad family oh the irony! But like really he came a bad one too he was coming in and out of hospitals and theraphy. go with him always online though you need to bring someone or at least be old enough to fend for yourself GOOD LUCK!!
16. 15 is a pretty experimental age, and it's better he go through these things now than when he's older, when sex would definitely be an option in the relationship. Also, your son would be heartbroken if you forbade him to see a girl he loves. You should let your son do this; it's a life experience. I first dated when I was 15, and neither I nor my parents ever regretted it. You say she comes from a bad family and is alone a lot...your son is probably the light of her life.
17. You're the parent! You should know. Do what's best for your son. I would recommend to tell him to stop dating that girl. Do what's best for your son, someday he'll find true love. Please, mine? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090523115957AADRqHG
18. You shouldn't punish the girl for being born into a "bad" family. When you met her did she seem friendly, polite, and respectful? Does your son care about her a lot? If you're not sure about her then invite her round for dinner to get to know her. If you don't want your son to hang out at her house then tell him to invite her over to yours. Let your son know that you trust him and his judgment but that you have his best interests at heart and want to make sure that he is safe and happy. Don't ban him from seeing this girl unless you have a very good reason to do so because it will just encourage your son to rebel against you. It is best to be supportive of the relationship if you can and to encourage it to go the way that you want it too.
19. My daughter was in a similar situation. She met a guy online when they were only 13, but didn't meet in person until the age of 16. I was with her when she met him. He didn't come from the best family either, but I didn't think she was in any danger. Could you possibly have them hang around at your house instead? Or possibly meet up with her family, and ya'll could go out to dinner to get to know each other better? You may have to ask yourself if you could really trust your son. Do you think he could get into trouble if they're left alone? Do you think he'd know the right thing to do?
20. Just because the father left her mother doesn't mean she comes from a "bad family". I technically don't have a father for a similar reason and I don't come from a "bad family". Sure, my family is crazy and arbitrary and far from normal, but we have fun, and we care about each other. The fact that her father walked out could have an impact on her personality today making her like me, a bit of a feminist. She might not let herself get controlled, or she might try to push him a way a little bit when things start to get serious as a defense mechanism. Or it might impact her in a way that makes her very easy to be hurt, and she might be a very sensitive person. Of course it's fine to let him go to her house! What are you expecting? Someone to jump out of the bushes and shoot him? Just because her father walked out doesn't mean that they're violent or dangerous or immoral. Your son will be fine. If you're worried about leaving them alone together, you could tell him that you'd be more comfortable having her in your house where you could keep an eye on them. I wouldn't just tell him to not see her, though. That's basically asking for a rebellion. It's good that you worry--means you care--but also means you're the kind of family that make families like mine look bad. You're the kind of person that looks down on a family that isn't with two married parents and normal children. Or maybe not, but that's sort of the impression I got. Good luck!
21. No adult, no visit. I have raised 5 and I know they start feeling their oats at 15, however, I didn't allow dating until 16. They were allowed to visit with members of the opposite sex while in groups, or at a home with adult supervision. You're asking to be a grandfather with this situation. Of course in this situation the mother may be a bad parent and allow them to visit in the bedroom, another big no no. It's true you have to trust them at some point, but be realistic when you do. The other issue is that you have to pay the child support until he turns 18.
22. Yeah, I would be worried about them being left alone a lot. It would be kind of crappy to forbid him from seeing her because of what life dealt her. I guess it depends on her character. I don't know.
23. The question should be do I trust my son?What does coming from a bad family mean? Surely just because her father left and being left on her own a lot does not constitute a bad family.Hell I was watching myself when I was 8 yrs old.Was your life so blessed when you were a kid that you have trouble with people that do not fit your ideas?
24. It depends on how much you trust your son to make good decisions. I allow my daughters to socialize with all sorts and they usually figure out on their own who not to socialize with. Also a lot of teenage love seems to last about 3 weeks before they move on to their next love.
25. I think, and this is just my opinion, that you should let your son make his own choices. And i nkow that came out rude, but it wasn't meant to be. But if your son wants to be with her, than you should let him. If you are worried about the family she comes from, she can't really help her family. Is she what you would concider a 'bad person'? or do you know her well enough to make the assesment? I would suggest talking to your son about letting her come to your house more often than he going to hers. Not so you can 'watch them like a hawk' but to give the girl a sence of belonging. The three of you could go out and do things together. Go to the zoo, bike ride, family game night, etc... Invite her over and really try to care about her. If she is left alone alot, maybe she is missing that connection at home. I'm not saying be her parent, but at least try to be her friend. If he insists on going to her house, try talking to the mother about things that the four of you can do while over at her house. Maybe create a friendship with her mom. Go over to the girl's house with him a few times if you feel the need. Just make sure you let your son know that you are not trying to be overbearing and overprotective. That you just love him and want to get to know her snd her family so that you can be more agreeable and accepting of the relationship. Hopefully he will understand, and you have a good strong reltionship where you can talk about such things without tempers rising. I lived with my grandmother and we talked about everything. She trusted me completely to make the right choices. And because of that trust, i never got into any trouble. Never snuck out, never cheated or stole, and i feel it was because of the fact that we talked every day. I willing told her about things in my life. If you and your son are like that, then i am sure that no matter how it turns out, your son will know that know matter what he can count of you to be there and back him up so to speak. I hoped that my advice was able to help a little. My children are still young so i have not dealt with this yet, but that is how i would handle the situation. Good luck to you and your family. I wish you all the very best life can offer you.
26. Never allow him..........You are spoiling your son's life if you allow him........And love at the age of 15 is a crap......... If i were you no gf until he is done with his studies........ I am strict in all those things.....
27. Well. I'd say as long as the mom is gone, they will be fine. It sounds like she's not the bad guy but her mom is. So yeah. I think they can be mature while her mom is away.
28. STOP your son NOW. No business to contact this girl - ONLY BAD things will happen if he continues. Step up - DAD! Stop being a wimp!