I know, another singles&dating question, but i need honest advice please.?

hello, I am 16 and am a junior in highschool. i knew a guy basically my entire life because my parents were friends with his. but we went to different schools so didn't see eachother much. Anyway, later on in life (16) we ran into him and i got his phone number and we started hanging out and soon enough started dating. the first week was great, he was always talking with me on the phone, taking me to the movies, etc. then we became bfgf but two months later he started pressuring me into doing little things and then he wanted bj and sex and i was just not ready for that. i really cared about him but i am in no way shape of form a slut and it was tough but i had to let him go. all he cared about was sex and everything else was just an act to try to get in my pants... even though he failed. :) anyway, i have been trying to get over this whole mess and not treat every guy as if they were him but it keeps playing in my mind that they are. but that is not fair now is it. i just recently started talking to this guy, he is actually friends with a couple of my really great guy friends. hes so funny and intelligent. he has alot in common with me like sports, what he likes to do in spare time, color, favorite food, favorite place to go, and we get along so well. but of course theirs a catch. like most of the guys i know...he drinks. not every day but once in a while. and does drugs once every couple months.. and im completely drug free typa girl. i just don't know what i should do. if i should stay away from him, or stay friends or have a relationship with this sweet guy if hes interested. it seems like ijust keep putting walls up though... and making problems because i keep thinking something will go wrong and he will hurt me too. any advice or opinions? please only serious answers

Public Comments

1. I like mashed potatoes.
2. Go back to him, having sex is what being alive is all about. It will strengthen your feelings.
3. MOST GUYS WANT THAT, BUT DON'T GIVE IN, UNTIL YOU ARE READY!!!!! PLEASE 'RESPECT' YOURSELF & MAKE THEM "RESPECT" YOU & YOUR MIND, BODY & SPIRIT & SOUL... BE A WOMAN! RESPECT YOURSELF!
4. if he wont' quit and that is true then leave him that is no way you can deal with it. they drink do drugs and get worse its not nice and they get mean you will see if you stay long eought its sad but its not good fo ryou so move on and find a new guy you will find the right one you hae to get moving.
5. Dating someone who's gonna give u access to drugs is never a good idea. But if u must, and u haven't seen anything to make u think he's not a nice guy, give him a chance.
6. Your so0o silly start talking to him If he tries to be like that then you dont have to talk to him jst drive him off like you did that other jerk But guys arent the same.. and some change
7. stay away and find some other guy who is better...
8. If your the drug free type of girl then dont hang out with a drug crowd, cause you are who you hang out with.
9. you keep saying this guy is sweet and Intelligent. but how is he Intelligent when he smokes and drinks? i think you should start a relationship with this new guy since you have common interests.
10. ok frist off, how are you 'drug free', you've probably taken drugs for headaches and when you were sick. Do some research on Weed and other stuff instead of listening to what schools tells you. But in the end its still your choice. Ok, every guy out there that you will ever date has one purpose...to have sex with you.
11. theres a saying that goes "everything happens for a reason" maybe you should give this boy a try. dont take it too seriously..take it as a slow and fun relationship! go ahead and try it and if you dont like it then break up with him. you are young and 16. i know for a fact there will be pleanty of guys out there for ya but mainly stick to your heart and gut. dont get serious with this boy good luck
12. ok you away from it but when someone you really do not want to ask you to press on with sex or anything because you understood and cared about you as the most precious jewel . until then and thought about what you gonna do ....
13. A guy who is drinking and doing drugs periodically probably isn't the right guy for you if that's not what your into. Drinking and drugs can be very tempting even if you don't think that's a road you would ever go down. If you like this guy I would suggest maybe being his friend but I wouldn't suggest dating him.
14. alot of guys want sex but its completely up to you, and about your guys drug problem people tend to get violent when they cant afford/don't use it
15. ahh your situation is quite the usually so don't worry :) I deeply respect your choices. I say give the new guy a chance because you'll never know unless you give him a chance. Truely and honestly above all ENJOY HIGH SCHOOL!!! also, keep your goals in mind, guys really shouldn't be your priority, although it is always nice to have someone to call when your lonely :) (just think of all the guys you get to date in college;))
16. I have had guys ACTUALLY TELL ME: "I really like how much respect you have for yourself, it's impressive." Guys that are good for you won't pressure you, they'll appreciate how you don't give in and have a mind of your own. I didn't even have sex with my current boyfriend until three months after we started dating, and because we were both ready, I have had no regrets. However, I think it's great that you don't believe in drugs. I do smoke and drink sometimes, but no guys that actually truly cared about me have destroyed our relationship that could turn into something special over something like that. So don't judge him just based on that. Keep up the good work! You shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable in one of the main elements in a relationship.
17. you're always going to question things before getting into a relationship.. wht i say about the new guy is talk to him and see if he wants to date you and if so see if he's willing to give up the drugs? ...it's worth a try... and as far as the whole being afraid that you're going to be hurt again... well all i have to say is... you WILL be hurt many many times.. youre young just take it as a learning experience.. and have fun while it lasts..