How Can I trust a man again And start dating?

i have a 9 year old daughter and i am a single mom and my daughter does not like me dating.to tell you the truth for the past 9 years its only been me and her.My question is how do i started dating again with a 9year old daughter and how can i trust again?I got pregnant at 15 and my daughter's father left me and its been rough for me to becoming a teen parent.All of my friends are hooking me up with all types of guys for me to date but am i really ready to date yet?I just need some advice right now.

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1. you can't... trust goes away forever
2. let your daughter choose who you can date :)
3. if you're ready to date again-then go for it. and trust does too come back, with time when your 9 year old is older, she will realize that you need to further yourself by finding someone that makes you happy. once you find this person, she will be able to recognize this and she'll accept it because it will be what's best for the both of you. good luck:) help me with mine? i know its long, but i really need some advice: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Agp6dCb1xQ9IXdX2.duc.T_sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090429220641AAP7MTE thanks:)
4. In achieving anything worth having there is always risk. Without trust there are no real relationships, so this is a healing you are going to have to work on for yourself. I was a single parent. Usually I dated only when my son wasn't around. I established a day every week where he stayed with another single friend of mine (we traded one for one night of babysitting every week) and I planned my dates on that night. I never brought home a man unless I was quite serious. Dating as a parent can be tricky because you are creating a three way relationship, but before trying that balancing act, make sure the two-way relationship looks like it will work.
5. your child should not block your happiness do not give your child the upper hand of disliking or liking its your choice but when it comes to dating with a child first thing you need to make sure that the guy you are dating or trying to date respects that your child comes first and take time to know the man and understand if he will be a suitable man for you and a good step father for your child good luck
6. May I ask why you "need" a man? Now that you have a child with a guy who was an obvious deadbeat, shouldn't you be putting her before your "need" for a man? That might explain why your daughter does not want you to get stuck with another guy who might turn out to be another deadbeat.
7. Sometimes you need to just let yourself gradually grow into a role rather than jumping back into it. So instead of thinking "I need to get into the dating scene again" start doing something different, such as just be yourself and talk to people. Its during the time that you talk to people that your heart will grow fond for someone and from there you can begin to decide what next step you want to take. Too many people get caught up in the dating loop, leaving people feel sad and unsatisfied with life. Its all in your perspective. I found some other material that will help better explain and even give you some tips! Check out: http://www.datinglocal.net
8. I think that you can and should start dating again. It is rough when its been just you and her. Talk to your daughter, explain that you need to do this for you and that dating will make you happy. But you also should let her express herself and encourage her to tell you why she doesn't like the idea of you dating. I would guess that it is probably because she is afraid of losing you to someone else. If that is the case then explain to her that no one could ever take her place and that the bond that you share with her will be a special bond that no one can take away. As far as you trusting another man, you have to remember that everyone is different and that just because you got hurt once doesn't mean that you will get hurt again. Also remember that once you are in another relationship don't compare the new guy to the old guy. It is not the new guys fault that the old guy hurt you. Especially if you were so young with the first one. Older relationships are different then teen relationships. I know from experience. Also remember that when you do start dating, don't bring a guy home and let your daughter get attached if you are not serious about the guy. Also the guy should be warned upfront that you have a daughter. And that if he wants to be with you he has to except your daughter as well. Well good luck and if you need anything else please visit my website. http://www.teenmomadvice-sara.blogspot.com