Im Dating A Man Who Is Seperated And I NEED Advice ASAP!!! PLZ Help?

So I met this wonderful guy, that I really vibe well with. He is really cultured, diverse, and secure. The only problem is that I know he separated(not divorced) from his wife for about a year and I know he has issues he is working through with that. From me asking him questions he says that he "not gonna just completely drop my life if she wants to get back together", "but if she wanted to work for once and all that then I would have to consider that."if they ever will get back together because everything is so damaged and it seems miles away that they ever will. When we finally had sex it was so passionate and deep (I know that sex doesn't mean anything),but he is always staring deep into my eyes, caressing my face, telling me how wonderful and beautiful a person I am, He divulges secrets to me, even leaned on me for support when he was emotionally distraught and how he feels so free and comfortable around me. And when we are around each other like you can really feel the chemistry between us. But the things that really had me take a step back from him was when he said " I hope this is not going to complicate things between us, because I really value our friendship", then asked me just to reaffirm what he was thinking was us becoming intimate gonna complicate things.. Then he would apologize to me on his most stressful days that he is sorry that his life is so complicated right now. But I said No, that things are not complicated for me to play it cool cause of course it is cool I just got out of a relationship like a month ago. Then its like we talk everyday via phone or in person, and go out for dates and events and we see each other just about every other day. But what could this mean? Is his actions conflicting with his thoughts or what?! Because I know that he is separated, and NOT divorced there is always that possibility will get back together despite the fact they have been apart for a year and a half. Is there something there for later down the line for us or is it just an no strings attached type deal........ Please help Im in an emotional hold of confusion Please Help -Mz.TopNotchCEO When We First met He introduced me to his mother. When I met his best friend he said that his mother called him out the blue and told him how gorgeous I am even before he met me! So my friend says his mom ask about me from time to time, so I'm like that's sweet! Then his best friend actually set up a double date with me, my friend, him, his wife, his kid, my kid, and my friend's dog. And my friend says his dog loves me and loves kids......... When We First met He introduced me to his mother. When I met his best friend he said that his mother called him out the blue and told him how gorgeous I am even before he met me! So my friend says his mom ask about me from time to time, so I'm like that's sweet! Then his best friend actually set up a double date with me, my friend, him, his wife, his kid, my kid, and my friend's dog. And my friend says his dog loves me and loves kids......... When We First met He introduced me to his mother. When I met his best friend he said that his mother called him out the blue and told him how gorgeous I am even before he met me! So my friend says his mom ask about me from time to time, so I'm like that's sweet! Then his best friend actually set up a double date with me, my friend, him, his wife, his kid, my kid, and my friend's dog. And my friend says his dog loves me and loves kids.........

Public Comments

1. Do not see married men. If he isn't divorced, he is married. PEriod.
2. cant you find someone that is NOT someone elses husband?
3. The last answer I gave you to this question still stands. That said, I think you should also consider that you are obviously this man's Plan B. I think it's a little sad that merely a *chance* of becoming his Plan A seems to be good enough for you.
4. Unfortunately, my dear, you are probably going to need to break off this relationship as he is not ready to be in another one (his first one being his marriage). At this point - you are in the same position as someone who is a mistress. You are the "other" woman and always will be. Break it off with him before he hurts you anymore. Get some counseling to help work through it if you need to and then go find a SINGLE guy that is right for you. Good luck
5. Your avatar kind of looks like Elvis.
6. He is probably actually still married (not even separated) and you are just an affair! How do you know exactly for a fact he is separated. Have you been to his house, met his children. I really think you should never get involved with someone until they are DIVORCED. Val - hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha, ahem...ok I'm done.
7. i would not invest too much until he was divorced, just enjoy it while its there, but if his wife would suddenly want to work it out, he would probably be gone or u would just be something on the side.
8. He's married and your his booty call for now. This guy, if given the chance will be back with his wife if she'll have him. Stay away from married men. Oh, by the way if he goes through with the divorce, he won't be looking to settle down anytime soon, if that's what you had in mind.
9. i would say there is something down the line for you two. He may be ready to move on, which he has for the most part, but in the back of his mind he thinks that he could go back and work things out. I say that you need to show him that he is not missing anything and that the two of you have something real special.
10. I hate women like you. My goddad is doin this crap to my godmom. do yu ever stop and wonder to think how his wife feels? She is still his wife,he is commiting adultery and so are you. do they have kids together? If so,imagine how they feel? don't be a homewrecker,make him work things out with his wife and for the future don't date married men!
11. I feel he HAS been honest w/you from the beginning, & for some reason, he still has his marriage/wife on his mind. Whether he IS hoping to get back together w/her or not is another question. But, he has told you upfront that IF anything happened that they would get back together, that you would then become part of his past. So, he has been upfront w/you. Thing is, IF they are NOT working on their marriage, not even seeing one another, I don't understand how things in fact would just out of the blue turn around w/them. In all honestly, I wouldn't foresee things getting back together for them. Not at this stage of the game anyway, especially since they are NOT working towards that end of things. He must care at least something for her tho to say something to the nature that he did. But I don't feel it honestly would be something I would really worry about as I just don't feel it's going to happen. Since things seem to be going well for the two of you, I would take things as they come. Enjoy one another's company & the times spent together. I feel in time, you w/start to mean a lot more to him & that he'll realize that as time goes by. Yes, I can very well imagine this does have you in somewhat of a state of confusion, but I feel in time things WILL turn around for the two of you & he'll realize just how much you do mean to him. The further he gets away from his past, the less they w/be in the front of his mind so to speak. But, do your best to focus on the now, don't think of "then", & try not to pry into tomorrow. Kind of like take things as they come & keep it in the day. I feel you'll become to mean a lot more to him as you see him & be w/him more. I know it sounds easy to say, but try your best not to worry, worrying gets us absolutely no where but just adds more stress on us. None of us need that for sure! I just feel you w/find the happiness you want if you just be patient & as you mean more to him in the coming days ahead. I DO wish you all the best...:)