Question for men in their 40s and 50s....dating advice.?

I am a 26 year old female. For the past two weeks I have spent time with a man who is 48. From the beginning, I made it clear that I did not want anything serious with him and that I did not want to get involved with the life of his son right away who is very young (3). We spent some time together doing things and spent a lot of time talking online, on the phone, and texting. He contacted me in some way many times a day, every day. We slept together and it was okay, not great. He had some problems staying hard. And I am fine with that. It was still nice to be with him otherwise. He didn't seem to be too embarrassed. I thought everything was fine and we left on good terms but he hasn't contacted me for almost two days. So what is his problem and what do I do now? Do I contact him or just ignore him?

Public Comments

1. He's 48 with a 3 year old??? I'm 40 with two teens!
2. May be that he's embarrassed and wasn't able to perform, you need to tell him that it's OK with you, that is if you're OK with it.
3. Do you need a father figure in your life? When I was 26 yrs old the last thing I would have thought about was dating a man old enough to be my father. Have you introduced him to your parents yet? Maybe I'm prejudiced due to my own experience--the last guy I dated was 48 yrs old and is now dating a 26 year old that he proudly tells everyone about. He likes the fact that she's naive, doesn't know enough about life to question his actions, and he gets to do exactly as he pleases. No matter how intelligent you are--you can be easily fooled due to your own lack of life experiences. That's just the way it works. He'll pop back into your life at his own convenience...the question is whether that's going to be okay with you. My guess is that it will.
4. It sounds like you were trying to keep the distance anyway. Now it sounds like you want what you may not be able to have. I don't mean to sound harsh, or bi#$^y, but you created this. You liked the attention and now it seems to have left.
5. I'm 39, is that close enough to my 40s to qualify me to answer? I'll assume it is! First of all, it sounds like you've been smart and honest about your feelings and what you want (and don't want). Good for you. He should do the same, not keep you on ice for several days right after you've been intimate. I think it's fair for you to call him and ask what's up. If he doesn't take your call or reply to your message within a couple more days, move on.
6. Well you said you made it plain that you didn't want anything serious with him didn't you? maybe he took you at your word and feels the same way?