advice on dating a man with two girls?
Hi thanks for the responses to my previous question re this...I just genuinely want some advice about divorced men and their daughters..aged 11 and 15. I do not have kids and have never dated a man with children, but I've always gotten along great with them....I guess I just want to do this right and respect everyone involved because I care about this man...I guess sometimes I'm just a bit confused, because this is all new to me and I want to understand...
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- I have been in that boat before. It's never easy, especially since they are teenagers. Don't try to push things along too fast. If it starts to look like the girls are getting a little jealous, back off for a while and slowly start coming back around more often. Teenagers with divorced parents have a hard enough time just dealing with their own parents, adding a boyfriend or girlfriend of a parent into the equation just makes things even more scrambled. Good luck!
- for one thing you never said what your question is , but i have to say that if you care about him and his kids keep moving forward and stay honest with your feelings.
- One thing to remember is that you are not there mother, try to act like a friend to them but give them space, ask them questions about how things are going but nothing to deep at first. ask them, about school sports music ect ect. buy them things for there birthdays
- From experience I'd advise you to go slowly. Develop a relationship with the daughters independent from your relationship with the father. Realize that some fathers are very protective when it comes to their daughters and the daughters can sometimes feel jealously toward another female entering into their fathers life. If jealousy occurs, realize it could be caused by the perception that you will take away attention from them. Be mindful of the need for him & his daughters to spend time alone so they don't feel a need to compete for his attention. Again, just move along slowly and gently address things as they come up. If you find out that he allows his girls to run his life and relationships - run as fast as you can
