are there any free dating sites for military singles? I am a women looking for a free dating site for military singles. Are there any good ones? I'm interested now in kinda making some friends to here about the area i'm going to, maybe meeting someone, any advice woudl be appreciated.

Giving my boyfriend a free pass?? advice pleaseee? Hi id like advice on this from men and women please!! ok so me and my boyfriend are pretty serious, been dating for about a year and i see ALOT of potential in this guy for our future. the only problem is that he was a virgin when we met and i...wasnt...there have NEVER been any problems with me having more experience than him in our relationship ever! but we are planning a future together and i want him to have a sort of 'free pass' that he can use for a month and sleep with any girl he wants with no commitment, meaning no dating other women or anything like that, just sex....am i crazyyy? We both know the difference between love and sex and i feel like itd benefit both of us in the future if he sleep around a bit now before we get married and have kids and then he cheats or something. Im pretty much sure i want him to do this but id just like know other peoples opinions. If youve been in the same situation thatd be even better! Thanx! xoxo

Would you pay for a dating website? Also a website that offers dating advice, "how to approach women" videos, etc. Surely if they cared about helping you find love they'd be free? Or do you think you get what you pay for? Are dating websites the equivalent of Lucy van Pelt's psychiatric booth from the Peanuts strips?

Can Anyone Give Me Advise On Dating? Women only? I've dating or been in a long term relationship for years now, ive tryed 4 dating sites and wrote people i usually say "hi, how are you", but i never get any response. I've asked this question b4 on here they all tell me to get out go to a club go places, but the thing is theres nothing like that around here where i live ive never seen a club in my whole life. I just have the worst luck on dating that there is someone told me i was to nice once that im just the friend type, I just cant undestand women sometimes i think it might be the way i look or something im about 85 percent sure that thats what it is. If anyone could give me advice on how to meet new people and want women want out of a guy, here's what i am and that dont like it so it seems "nice, honest, romantic, sensitive but not too sensitive. Any advise thanks so much i'm looking for responses from women on this topic. If you would like to give me more advise or help me out alittle more fell free to send me a message on myspace, www.myspace.com/biggillie

Need Advice - WOMEN OLY PLS!!? I am registered on an online dating site. I used to have epilepsy but had brain surgery in June 2007 for it. Because of the brain surgery I have alot of trouble remembering things that people tell me (re: 5min later it is forgotten). This makes it very hard if I am out on a first date and they want to meet me again because I don't remember anything they told me. None of the men take it well when I tell them I had brain surgery (even though I am seizure free). Question For The Women: If you were like me, would you put this in your online profile so that men know you had surgery and are now "seizure free" before they contact you ?????? Thanks!

advice about this guy i met online from a dating site....? I need advice about this guy.. Ok, I'm on one of those Catholic match dating site and one guy sent me a message about 3 month ago but in that moment I was dating somebody else and I did not pay attention on his message, almost 1 month ago i email him asking if he still free? and if he likes my pictures ? he answers me..saying- hi and how are you? and how was your day? and for 1 week dissappear I did not hear anything about him until last week he sent me another e-mail asking me how was my day ? how is my job? just hello and no more...I answer his e-mail and he dissappear again... Today he sent me another e-mail saying sorry I had a cold...and how is your day going? and, are you going to celebrate St. patrick's day? I think are stupid questions...I think he is dating another women but maybe he is not sure and he wants to still keeping me in touch like a leash I do not know what I SHOULD do ? if I should not answer anymore his e-mails or... some advice please! thanks!

need free advice on my relationship asap? im wanting to date this woman who lives with her 19 yr old niece (both from mexico, they dont speak english). ive gotten the vibe that the niece doesnt like me. they also share a phone together. So I hit up the aunt to ask her out sunday. she told me she might not be home sunday but i hit her up anyway with a text. i had a feeling that she might not be there, so her niece would read my text. so i texted her this: "hey is ur aunt there?" ive never talked to her via text before so i just assumed she was reading them. the niece texted back and told me "yes shes coming back tuesday but u know she has a bf dont give her problems calling her." now before this text the aunt and i had a date set for thursday (she asked me out) and i was chill until i got this wierd text from her niece. I texted back: "sry if i caused any problems shes didnt tell me she had a bf" and she texted back "she didnt tell you bc she felt bad about not telling you not to talk to her anymore." is the niece bs'ing me?? the other weird thing is that the niece told me when her aunt is coming back. Ive thought about the possibility of the aunt having a bf, but it doesnt seem to me she wouldnt have the time for one. she's even told me she is surprised i still call her because even her friends have stopped calling her due to her long work hours, she tells me she hardly has any free time (she is a live-in maid, works long irregular hours six days a week) I am really infatuated with this woman i dont think i cant stop ok well if she is bs'ing me why did she tell me when my girl is coming back? I'd figure she'd just tell me she has a bf so dont call back, thats it. this really bothers me. i forgot to mention i am 21 and the aunt is 34

need some men and women advice? i have liked someone for quite some time now, and i thought i was liked back...but just found out that he is going out with a close friend of mine.... before this my friend (the one that is dating the guy) was always encouraging me to make a move or give him a hint that i liked his as she keps saying she is not interestied in him so i was free to do what i wanted... yesterday i found out that they r planning their engagement party... i am not hurt but very anoyed... what shall i do with the friendship i have with them? they've been dating for 3-4 months without anyone knowing and only 5 months ago she kept telling me that she looked at him as a brother truthfully i have prayed for them to have many blessings in their life but it feels strange to be anywhere around them

My questions concerns internet dating, which are best, what are the cost, advice? I am a man who would like to meet some nice ladies. I am not looking for marriage or a very serious relationship. I am flexible, just chatting, a date or two fine. Have gotten e-mails from several companies that seemed interesting. Incidentally, Yahoo Personals did not work well for me. The three companies that have offered free services are Mate 1, Engage, and Meet Big Beautiful Singles in Your Area (I like larger women). What would there be to lose to fill out a form for a trial. I am looking for low costs. Would be grateful for any thoughts, suggestions, and experience on this matter.

Do you think I did the right thing? Please feel free for any advice!? Yesterday, I told the woman that I love that I am ready for a commitment and that I am tired of just being her lover. I want more. I felt used by her bc she will never commit to me yet she will go all the way to Cali to try to meet someone else for a long term. I told her I am way better than the other people she's ever dated. Those people treated her like crap, they called her names, used her, and wasted her time. I always say sweet things to her, and if I ever hurt her feelings I sincerely apologize. I gave her a choice to commit to me or we cannot mess around anymore bc I'm tired of playing around and I want something more deeper more complex. She said she can't handle a relationship right now. She has told me that for 3 years now. Is it that she just doesn't like me or what most women would die to date me. It's that she's the only one that won't be with me in a deeper way, but she loves sex with me. Please honest answers. Thank you. I'm so tired of hurting. After, I told her all this she hasn't even called or text me.

Moving from casual to exclusive relationship? I have been dating a women for a couple months. I am not dating anyone else, but, I know that she has (shorty after we started)and may again. We have had great dates and I really want to take this relationship further and the signals seem to show she is into me. How do I approach/talk too her about wanting to be her boyfriend? I want to be careful that I don't come off as the dog marking my territory, as she is completely free to do as she pleases, but I want a girlfriend and not another female friend. If she not willing to move to be more serious, I want to date other women. Advice on such a situation?

What would you want out of a dating advice site? I am thinking of setting up a web site that gives women a chance to ask a guy (me) any questions they would like to know the answer to. Would you use it if it cost a little? or if it were free? What are some of the questions you would ask?

I need some advice-how do I get back into dating after a long marriage? Not looking for just physical thing!? I have tried internet dating site and got lots of replies but most either just disappear, never talk back when I reply--even something as simple as How are you? What do you like to do in your free time? What kinds of food do you like? etc. If they don't disappear, they come on very strong, want to meet right away and are very concerned with physical needs, shall we say? Aren't there any men who really want a relationship not just a quick physical thing? I am 48, by the way but most people say I look younger, around late 30's or early 40s(not bragging just really is what people say). I tend to attract (on the internet anyway) younger men (30's) or much older (65 & up)--very few from 45 to 50. I am not a clingy needy person, pretty independent, but do expect to be treated like a person not just body parts! Where I live, it seems women a lot uglier and meaner (b*-mean, if you know what I mean)seem to have no trouble getting bfs and hubbies (usually they meet at bars though) What gives? The only bars/clubs around where I live are pick up places, with shootings, etc. Only 1 decent bar but mainly college kids. No movie theatre, no clubs or organizations except Jr. League and country club--not in my price level, not my society level. 1 tiny tiny mall. Can't afford to drive too far to find somewhere to go (closest place at least 50 miles away) I also work at a very tiny family business--no chance of dating co-workers. Plus, I have been divorced for a while now--didn't date for a long time, but really feel ready now (several years since divorce). I get looks at Walmart and grocery stores, but when I talk to them, it seems a woman comes around the corner and makes sure I know they're a couple. There isn't anywhere else to go around here--I am not the only one that say this--the 20 somethings have a hard time finding a date--not a hard time finding a one-night stand, but hard to get real dates from what I have heard (all ages)

I need advice from women....? I decided to try out a very large 100% free dating site just to see. I ask girls if they want to talk and they say they do. Then i tell them a little more about myself, and when i am done i ask them to tell me a little about them. After that i never hear from them again. There is nothing about me to scare them off. What am i doing wrong?

Why do you think women ask more questions on this forum than men? It doesn't matter for the particular category: "Singles & Dating", "Marriage & Divorce", and especially "Weddings". Does this indicate something deeper in the psyche of men vs. women? Do men not care about relationships the way that women do? Or do women seek more anonymous advice than men do? Feel free to disagree, also. It's perfectly acceptable to believe that men ask more questions than women on this forum, but I think providing evidence for that would be an uphill battle.

Me, a 23 year old man, am dating a 44 year old women, question? The relationship is increideble she has a son that is 24 years old another that is 22 and 4 grils that are between the ages of 7-9. The communication is wonderful the problem that we as a couple are having is the sin that we are living. We are living together and have been dating for 3 months. She has tried 4 times to let me go because she feels as if she is a burden on my life. So she has in all her power try to let me go but I will not let her go. She is smart funny mature successful and just can not get enough of her. We are talking about marrige and my heart says go for it. I love this women and her 4 beautiful little girls. Any tips advice, anything please feel free to express your thoughts?

why dont women like me? Give me advice to trick women to go to movie date with me? I mean, I am nice, am mostly free of lice and mites, I shower every other day and wipe my butt most of the time...and not with my hand. My mustache is trimmed nicely, I listen to disco music, I have nice apartment that just had the mold removed, the scabies outbreak was a false alarm, and I have a pet dog who rarely goes on the sofa. I am friendly, I always talk to my neighbors about sports and the strip club, I don't drink much, and I have nice posters on my wall. I have lots of money to spend on female with large busoms yet they never want to date me? Why not? I never treat woman bad, I am nice, someone date me and I take you to McDonnalds, you can get 4 things from the dollar menu. The we go back to yours and talk about mickey mouse and other things you like. We have coffee and pie, then I watch you wash dishes, then we talk about more things you like such as, cooking, washing up, sewing,.and scrubbing. Will be fun date, if I ever find a date. I am sad

I have a some questions for bi-sexual girls or lesbians, can you help answer them? I'm 34 and have had a boyfriend for almost 8 years now. We are growing apart. Our relationship is very stressful. Since I was a teen, I've found myself attracted to women. I did "experiment" in college but didn't date any women. If my bf and I split, I'd like to try dating a woman but I don't know how to meet any! I really don't want to go to a gay bar (I live an hour from Chicago) and just "hook up". What are some other ways? I'm preety but I am feminine, would both "butch" and "girly" (I hope these terms are not offensive, if they are, please tell me the correct terms) women, possibly find me attractive? I'm also very shy at first around both women and men, is that a problem? I'd love to find a woman who loves animals just as much as I do and someone I can talk to about anything (this is not the case with any man I've ever dated). Please give me any advice you have! What about free dating services online, are there any good sites? Or is this a bad way to meet someone?

Would you PAY to use a dating site? Also a website that offers dating advice, "how to approach women" videos, etc. Surely if they cared about helping you find love they'd be free? Or do you think you get what you pay for? Are dating websites the equivalent of Lucy van Pelt's psychiatric booth from the Peanuts strips?

Looking to build a panel of experts on women psychology? I am looking for people (prefably women) who could provide in-depth advice on women's psychology. (I don't want to spend time with time wasters on here throwing insults to try to get back at me instead of enlightening the question at hand - questions can be offensive, but I have pratical reasons to why I put them up there in the first place.) Typical topics include discussion on: what a woman's exact thoughts (they can't say 'it's because it is' 'because I choose to'). why they act the way they act what drives them to do the way they do why they chose to do certain things and not others what they expect will happen if they act in a certain way expect questions to be contriversal and really unorthodox. expect them to be offensive. expect to be offended with reason. At the same time, I have spent 18 years of my free time on studying gender differences, body language, evolution biology, women's dating techniques, men's dating techniques, women's psychology and men's psychology. I believe the benefit is mutual and of interest. If this seems like it interests you and you can contribute to the discussion in a meaningful way (irrespective of whether your level of expertise is academic or not; just as long as it's insightful), leave your email address or allow me to access your via email on your Answers profile. If possible, recommend me some links to useful dicussion groups. As always, any unhelpful comments will be thumbed down Cheers

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What should I do? Found my boyfriend signed up on dating websites? My boyfriend and I were together once before for over 3 years. Then we split up because he wanted to be with another women, and things had kind of been on the outs for awhile anyway. About a year and a half ago we got back together, and are living together now. Regardless of what he did back then, keep in mind he is the all-time love of my life. But one day about 4 weeks ago I saw on his bank statement that he had joined Match.com and another free dating website. When I asked him about it he said it was just out of pure curiosity, and that he was sorry. I know all of his passwords to everything so I know for a fact that since that day he has not gone back to any of the websites, but I cant get it out of my head. What should i do?? I have an 8 year old son who adores him, and I cant even imagine not being with him again. When we split up last time I went on a downward spiral for about 2 years. I am pretty understanding and am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt because I am not a jealous person by any means, but it hurt me to discover it!!! Please give me good advice.....!!!!

URGENT!!! ADVICE NEED? I met this beautiful and sexy lady at a club. After the third date, she told me she is an exotic dancer. I purchased some high end gifts for her really quick. Anyway, she invited me to her job one day. At her job, I got really drunk. While I was drunk, she requested that the bartender take $500 in singles from my debit card. I never took possession of the $500. Anyway, after I left, I realized that she had the $500 and my $2k diamond ring. I texted her and told her I wanted to pick up the items the next day. The next day, I had a hard time getting in touch with her. I left several messages and she didn't call me back. Finally, I got fed up and told her I would file a complaint. Then, she called back and told me to pick up my stuff. When I arrived at her house, she sent her son to my car with the ring but not the money. I texted her about the money and she never responded. Anyway, we stopped speaking. A week later, I was out with my friends and they wanted to go to the strip club she works at. While there, I saw her and we went into the private room. She really tried to put it on me. Anyway, I asked her when she was free and she said the next day. The next day, I was busy and didn't call. I called two days later and left a message with my number just in case she erased same. She never called back. Then, I saw her friend at a bar the next week. She said that the girl told her that I got drunk and didn't remember that I gave her the money and the ring. Anyway, she called her and I called her but the girl never called me back. Her friend kept in contact with me because she needed assistance on a business matter. Anyway, the friend said that she spoke to the girl and she told her that she was excited when I came to her job and that she wanted her to text her my number. The friend claims she texted her the number but I didn't hear from her. I talked the friend again and she told me to call her. I text her and still no reply so I said forget her. The next week, I saw her at a nightclub when I was with another girl. She starred at me the whole night. It was so obvious that the girl I was with asked me about her. The next day, I spoke to her friend and she said that the girl asked her if the lady I was with is my girl and that she thought I liked her. Anyway, the friend said she would call her and call me right back. Anyway, I decided to call the girl and discovered that her number was disconnected. Then, I called the friend back and she said she just spoke to the girl but she was asleep. However, I already knew that the girl number was disconnected so that was a lie. Now, I am starting to think that the friend has been lying the whole time and never made an effort to call her regarding me or text her my number. The friend might have been concerned only with the business matter I was helping her with. What do you think? I am dating several other women but for some reason, I am really interested in this one. Should I just wait and see if she eventually contacts me. The friend previously said she is going through some financial problems so maybe that's why I haven't heard from her. Also, I think she might of got fired from her job.

Bittersweet breakup advice? Hi everyone thanks for helping before hand! I had been dating my Girlfriend for 8 months. I cant Speak for her but I can at least say I like her as a person more than any girl i've ever experienced or have been attracted to. I've had these feeling since the first night we meet and they keep getting stronger. We are both very attractive people, have never had a fight - not one, both atheist - which is hard to find and is important in the way we live our life and carry out our ethics. We hung out all the time, gone on trips, just got back from xmas with my family, into art, politics, working out ect, ect. Prior to us meeting we were hell bent on staying single and "free" forever. Recently she broke up with me because she thought that we were going in different situations that were not compatible, we both moved away from our college. We had a great relationship and never had a fight once over 8 months. She told me that as an artist she wants to find herself and just focus on just herself. This is perfectly acceptable to me I tend to think that we might need our space because while at college we only hung out with each other due to class, work and the town we were fed up with. She thinks that we cannot maintain the same relationship so we should end it. We both moved to the same cities and are living within 10 mins of each other of course there is going to be change that’s what life is. What I feel and some of her friends feel is that she just has a case of the too good to be true syndrome. In the past she had a vision of herself as a young, independent graphic designer in the big city very sex in the citish…it turned out her life was not looking that way because she has feeling and didn’t want to really be independent deep down but told herself that’s what she wants . We decided not to talk for 5 days and will get together on thurs to discuss things, she and I both wanted to do this.. Anyways do women do these things? I mean I really think she talked herself out of our relationship for the purpose of fulfilling her vision.. She was crying the day and night we broke up and we basically lied in bed all day night with one another hugging, kissing and comforting each other after it happened discussing how to rationally go about this and talking about how good our relationship was.

what is the best place to meet beautiful women? i recently broke up with my ex-girlfriend. we dated for a long time and it turned into a long-distance relationship because i had to move because of work. Unfortunately, it did not work out. Because I was traveling so much during my free time to keep our relationship as normal as possible, i haven't met anyone recently. i need to go out and meet a few educated, beautiful, 20-something females. What are the best places to go to? Bars? Is it weird to go out alone to a bar? And what is the best way to open a conversation with them? Apparently my confidence has been shaken considerably because back in college this would not have been a problem. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

where are the good women at? Hello. My girlfriend of 4 yrs broke up with me(on the day I was going to propose). We've haven't been seperated long and it really killed me inside when she left. We have talked about it and everything and I understand why she wants out. If she not happy with me then I wouldn't want her to continue with me. I just want her happy whether she's with me or not. The part that kinda sucks is that she has no place to go so I'm letting her live with me until she can transfer jobs and get a place of her own, which could be up to a 4 months away. That parts kinda complicated but the only options is for her to stay with me or move back to our hometown which she doesn't want to do. And I can't just kick her out because she gave me 4 really great years. I wanted to try some counsuling(or however you spell it lol) but she said she wants to try being with other people and wouldn't try it. I really love her still but I'm over her at the same time, if that makes sense lol. I've been out of the dating scene for awhile and I just kinda was wondering where a good place to meet good women(by good I mean truthful, honest, not like one night stand kinda girls). I don't want to do the rebound thing. And I'm pretty sure I'm ready for another relationship. I not really sure if I wanna try the online dating thing or not. But I do wanna try dating other women. I don't go to church so I can't meet any there( and just because they are in church doesn't mean anything all the time lol). I go to bars sometimes but most of the time with buddies so its kinda hard to really talk to anyone with a couple of drunks standing next to ya lol. Like I said I've been outta the game for awhile. I live in the kansas city, kansas area. So if anyone from around there sees this feel free to through out some ideas. Thanks for any advice. Thanks for the answers. I kinda forgot about the parks andsuch thanks. I had hoped that we could bring everything back to what she was missing but I dont know if thats possible. thanks agian.

if i keep dating him could it lead to a serious relationship? I have been dating this fun attractive man who has an amazing zest for life I would call him a free spirit or an opportunist. He has mentioned to me how important having his freedom is to him and how he enjoys being able to do what ever he pleases like swim or golf etc without answering to no one. I wonder if he will want a special lady in his life to love I would like to be her but he only asks me out on dates like to play golf or ride bikes go grab a drink and so forth I know he is dating other women but the more dates i go on with him the more I fall in love and desire more with him he is all i think about it makes it hard for me to date other men because they just don't add up to this guy I just need advice on what i should do from this point. Thanks so much for your advice :)

Falsely accused of rape, now my life has been completely destroyed, can anyone help or give advice? When I was 18, I was totally in love with this girl. One day she called me up and invited me over to her house. We were hanging out in her room, getting drunk, and she started making out with me (I was a completely virgin, this was my first kiss, and first everything else). She told me to finger her, and I did, with her basically guiding me through it. After that she said I should go because her mom was going to be home soon. I left feeling like the kind of the god damned world. Anyway the next day my best friend called me up, acting all hostile and strange. He said he needed to see me. I say "sure," and go to meet him. He's there with the rest of our group of friends (the girl was in our little clique but she wasn't there). They stand around me and accuse me of raping her. I was beyond shocked. I asked them what the f**k they were talking about and they said the girl called up my best friend crying saying I got her drunk (it was her booze) and forced myself on her. Then they beat the sh!t out of me pretty badly. Anyway that was three years ago. I lost all my friends, and word got around that I was a rapist. It went on my criminal record, and getting a job became pretty much impossible; also my parents effectively disowned me and refused to give any kind of financial assistance. I'm not even allowed to stay at their house. No one believed me when I said I was innocent. I was expelled from university (Yale). I couldn't go out in public where I lived for fear of people attacking me. I moved away eventually but I still couldn't leave my apartment (until I was evicted). I have nightmares about the whole thing. Oh, and about six months after the incident, the girl and my best friend started dating. Man, I don't get chicks. What the hell am I supposed to do? I can't get a job (not from lack of trying), I'm more than 70k in debt thanks to the useless university, I was just evicted from my apartment, have few possessions other than clothes and sentimental items.... I don't even have money for food. I'm homeless. I have been doing EVERYTHING possible to get back on my feet, but society has completely rejected me; I'm stuck. I'm 20 years old, I'm smart and educated, I'm in my prime, but my life has been completely destroyed due to baseless claims by a woman, and society's inability to look beyond gender political correctness. In lieu of the facts, if it's just a guy's claim vs. a girl's claim, the girl is always believed, no matter what. As a result my only real prospects are more homelessness, poverty, and an early death. I've asked for help from MANY people and organizations, but no one will because they don't believe that I'm innocent. WHAT THE HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO DO NOW???? Thank you very much in advance for advice/responses... Feel free to email me at irving.lance@yahoo.com if you need to. -Lance Some have suggested that I should have gotten a lawyer, but I had nowhere near enough money for that.

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Advice Please? I was dating this guy for about 3-4mos, and in my entire life i've never had anyone treat me so horribly for no reason at all. I feel like i'm a good person, when in love i'm faithful, i don't argue a lot as long as i'm happy and your happy i just go with the flow, I work 8hrs, a day, and i'm currently enrolled in school two days a week. Now where i'm from that's rare because most women my age(23), lay up all day waiting for the first of the month to receive walfare, and watch soap operas all day. I do have a 6 year old son, but he's well taken care of and get's plenty of love. My question is Why was he's such an a** Hole? He never wanted to spend time with me, I had to practically beg him to have sex with me, and he never called, He was also a DJ at this club that me and my friends go to some time, so i asked him to get us in free, he said yeah, but when we got 2 the club, i was so embarassed because my name wasn't on the list. Why was he so cruel to me, i just can't understand why? And for the record I'm a very attractive person, because men are constantly asking me for my number, I am though a plus size woman, so maybe that has something to do with it, but he knew that when he asked me for my number. Maybe your right. He wasn't that attractive, and it wasn't because he was a DJ, it was because he worked, he took pride in himself, and he seemed like a nice guy.

Need a good place to meet women online around my age to get more dates? i am 26 years old and i am in denver colorado. i do not like the bar scene and i was wondering if there was any good places on the internet on where to meet and talk to women for free. Craigs list is beat to crap, all that ever happens is you get spam in return. and never any real responses and it did not used to be like that. SO essentially i am looking for a place online who are single or are looking for someone else where i can talk to them for free. thanks for your time and advice 26 / m / denver colorad feel free to mail me happyx4never(at)yahoo(_dot_)com lavalife is not a free website

Ladies: Have you ever had this problem? You go into a regular chat room to get advice for something unrelated to dating. All of a sudden, you get nine or more different windows open, all from men who are in there only looking to date someone via cyberspace. You politely say that you're not interested but they keep buzzing you. How many of you had this happen before? (It happened last night to my cousin. She told one fellow that she was in a relationship with another girl-she only said that to get him to leave her alone- and he was still asking her for her picture and her real name! Yikes!!) Men, feel free to answer this too, but change it to women buzzing you instead. BTW, my cousin went into a PARENTING chat room for advice on our cousin's son. There was one really nice lady in there and my cousins really appreciated her advice, but this one guy would not make like a tree and leave my cousin alone!

Smart Women Quotes ????? You see a lot of smart guys with dumb women, but you hardly ever see a smart woman with a dumb guy. -- Erica Jong My husband and I are either going to buy a dog or have a child. We can't decide to ruin our carpet or ruin our lives. -- Rita Rudner I'm not offended by all the dumb blonde jokes because I know I'm not dumb... and I also know that I'm not blonde. -- Dolly Parton I've been on so many blind dates, I should get a free dog. -- Wendy Liebman Never lend your car to anyone to whom you have given birth to. -- Erma Bombeck If high heels were so wonderful, men would be wearing them. -- Sue Grafton I would love to speak a foreign language, but I can't. So I grew hair under my arms instead. -- Sue Kolinsky I think -- therefore I'm single. -- Lizz Winstead "When women are depressed they either eat or go shopping. Men invade another country." -- Elayne Boosler "I base most of my fashion taste on what doesn't itch." -- Gilda Radner "Behind every successful man is a surprised woman." -- Maryon Pearson "Our struggle today is not to have a female Einstein get appointed as an assistant professor. It is for a woman schlemiel to get as quickly promoted as a male schlemiel." --- Bella Abzug "In politics, If you want anything said, ask a man; If you want anything done, ask a woman." -- Margaret Thatcher "I have yet to hear a man ask for advice on how to combine marriage and a career." -- Gloria Steinem "Nagging is the repetition of unpalatable truths." -- Baroness Edith Summerskill "If men can run the world, why can't they stop wearing neckties? How intelligent is it to start the day by tying a little noose around your neck?" -- Linda Ellerbee "Some of us are becoming the men we wanted to marry." -- Gloria Steinem Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then." -- Katharine Hepburn

Is there something going on...? I got my hairdressers telephone number (I am 21 and she is also there) First she gave me her number but was wrong, She found out so she give them her number again to give me.... she went on holiday alone for a week so I did not call her. Yesterday night I called her and she sounded suprise and clad to hear from me? I aksed her if we can go for cappacino this weekend but she can't. She said but next weekend I am free so I asked how about Thursday. She said yes but I'll sms you the morning just to confim. She then named a fancy/cool resturant in our town for us to go to our first meeting/date and said we can meet there. 1. Does she sound intrested? 2. She sounds and looks like she's a independant women since she go on holdiday alone and said we must each drive there and meet up. How do I greet her then when we meet at the place? 3. Is it then a date? 4. Need advice on all 3 points. P:S If a girl blows me off more 5 times then I move on...

Met a guy online...Need advice!? Hi. I'm 19 and i met a 21 year old guy on a free internet dating website. He lives near to me, and we've been chatting on msn for a while. He asked for my number and has basically been texting me...non-stop since then. I feel suffocated. I'm meeting him tomorrow for lunch for the first time.. and i'm scared. He's really nice, and we get on well but....argh. I've never been in a relationship before, and i don't think he's v good with the women either haha... But i duno whether to give him a chance and see how things turn out or not.. Any ideas? Thanks. We met up and he was lovely :) Thanks for all your advice, though!

Quotes from Women !!!? You see a lot of smart guys with dumb women, but you hardly Ever see a smart woman with a dumb guy. -- Erica Jong My husband and I are either going to buy a dog or have a child. We can't decide to ruin our carpet or ruin our lives. -- Rita Rudner I'm not offended by all the dumb blonde jokes because I know I'm not dumb... And I also know that I'm not blonde. -- Dolly Parton I've been on so many blind dates, I should get a free dog. -- Wendy Liebman Never lend your car to anyone to whom you have given birth to. -- Erma Bombeck If high heels were so wonderful, men would be wearing them. -- Sue Grafton I would love to speak a foreign language, but I can't. So I grew Hair under my arms instead. -- Sue Kolinsky I think -- therefore I'm single. -- Lizz Winstead "When women are depressed they either eat or go shopping. Men Invade another country." -- Elayne Boosler "I base most of my fashion taste on what doesn't itch." -- Gilda Radner "Behind every successful man is a surprised woman." -- Maryon Pearson "Our struggle today is not to have a female Einstein get appointed As an assistant professor. It is for a woman schlemiel to get as Quickly promoted as a male schlemiel." --- Bella Abzug "In politics, If you want anything said, ask a man; If you want Anything done, ask a woman." -- Margaret Thatcher "I have yet to hear a man ask for advice on how to combine Marriage and a career." -- Gloria Steinem "Nagging is the repetition of unpalatable truths." -- Baroness Edith Summerskill "If men can run the world, why can't they stop wearing neckties? How intelligent is it to start the day by tying a little noose around Your neck?" -- Linda Ellerbee "Some of us are becoming the men we wanted to marry." -- Gloria Steinem Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then." -- Katharine Hepburn

How do I deal with this-Need advice? I have been "seeing" this guy for two months and he is recently divorced (March) He has dated two women since then and says that he ended things because they were rushing the relationships. Now especially in the past two weeks we have been hanging out and talking more. Last night we had a talk and mutually agreed that we were basically firends with benfits for now and were both free t odate other people. He told me he feared us ruining our friendship , we have known each other two years and that he did nt want anyone to get hurt, but that things could evolve over time. I like him, but not thinking I am in love or anything, but should I seee what happens or what? Is it possible for this to turn into something?

Are you a good role model to your children? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you? My parents are great role models to us. My parents are hard working, kind, compassion, honest, and nice. My mom had her first date when she was 23. Her first boyfriend was my father. She was a virgin bride and a great mother. My father had dated a woman in college, but did not work out. Then, he found my mom and falled in love with her. My parents have been married for 24 years. They have been faithful to each others. My father's friends offered free stripper and prostitutes to my father--my father said NO. My parents are the loving and warm couples. My parents help and support each other careers and goals. Over the years, they turned the romance into strong friendship. My father is a school teacher. My mother has her own small business at home. Everyday my father would come home to have lunch and dinner with her. Of course, they have breakfast together. It is amazing how close they can be. I cannot imagine they ever been separated from each others.

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Why marry American woman? Hi, Im in my early 30s, doctor, make pretty good money and Im thinking about starting a family. I've been casually dating American women, but Im afraid of marrying one. My best friend who was married for 2 years, whos also a doctor got ass-raped in divorse court last month. He pretty much has to give around 30% of his income to his bithc ex wife. She pretty much used him for money and my pal was too love drunk to sign a prenup. I dont wanna end up in the same situation. This makes me wonder, should I only date American women for casual free sex and aspire to marry a foreign girl? Also, I want a white foreign girl, preferably blonde. Where can I fish one? I heard Eastern Europe is the best source for that, which country is better? anyone have experience? Another thing. If I bring in a foreign girl and get her a greencard and a passport later, she will love me more and appreciate the comfortable life that I give her. I am afraid tho, the longer she lives in the US, the more feminist propaganda she will digest and start acting like an American woman. How do I prevent that, or rather, slow the process down? Im afraid of ending up divorced and ass raped in court 10 years down the line. Need advice! What are your thoughts? I rather prefer a man answer my question who has foreign girl marriage experience

I am torturing myself.. I need advice.. Please help..? I think I always knew that he did not love me as much I loved him. Its not that I have low self-esteem or that he is tall, dark and handsome and irresistible and I liked the chase. That was not the case at all. From the moment we met, I loved him. I loved his smile, his laugh, how he looked at me. It took us over two years to tell each other we loved each other (even though I could have told him the first night, I just did not think he felt the same). Then we moved in together and I was never more happy in my life. I always thought to myself deep down that one day I would lose him and he would leave. I tried not to think about it but it was always there. Making sure whatever home we purchased that I could afford it on my own and etc. Then he started with going out with his friends all the time, and he would come home at 4 in the morning and we stopped liking each other. I started to hate all his friends and he hated everyone I knew. We started with the battle of the mother's. His mom did that and my mom did this. After 4 years of living together and 8 months of fighting everyday, I asked him to move out. I was fine for the first 3 months and was really looking forward to starting over. My house was mine. No cleaning up after him and so on. I then started to remember I how felt when things were good. All the little things that mattered. How he brought home movies every Tuesday night and they were always chick flicks ( because he knew i would like them) and would make me dinner in bed when I was sick. He would rub my back and always told me that I was the most beautiful woman he had ever seen. I missed him. I called him after 3 months and we starting dating again. Now we are back to how it was in the beginning. Living in separate houses and "dating". I realize that he loves me as much as he is capable of loving someone. Meaning if he ever dates someone else, I don't think he would be able to establish a better relationship with them. Its just who he is. I am stuck now wondering if I should move on or try to fix this? I love him so much but is that enough of a reason to stay with someone when you know that you will end up by yourself again someday because he is just not capable of having a real relationship? I really need someones advice. If you have any, feel free! I posted this questions about an hour ago. I did not get but only a few replies. I reposted using a different question. Just for anyone who already read this novel.

Why am I not attractive to reasonably attractive women? I suffer from Asperger's Syndrome (a mild form of autism) and have great difficulty in socialising. I have never had any friends nor a girlfriend, though I have always wanted one. I created a profile on a free dating website but every girl I contact has a look at my profile but does not reply to me. I would be extremely grateful if anyone could view my profile and give me advice on what is wrong with it. The website is www.plentyoffish.com and my username is alex_jones_23. I want to find girls who are attractive, intelligent and fun. What is preventing these girls from being attracted to me? Oh, and please do not just give me the cliché, be yourself and the right girl will come along, because I've heard that so many times and it doesn't work in my case.

Me and my girlfriend broke up and are starting over.? Me and my girlfriend of 3 months jumped right into a relationship after 1 week of meeting and then broke up a couple of weeks ago, we were having problems due to communication issues. We were having a rollercoaster relationship and we both let our past relationships come and hinder our new one (Not gonna go into details about that) we both agreed that we rushed into the relationship and didn't get enough time to know one another so we broke up. Now about a week later we said we were gonna be friends and try to start over and get to know each other, but I am having some issues with what we agreed. I really care for this girl and she says she really cares about me and not to worry about anything but I can't get over the thought of her talking to another guy and telling me she found someone else (We are free to date as agreed, but I don't want to date another woman). I don't tell her theses feelings but they are driving me nuts...any advice could help.

My GF is NeedY, Seeking a Womens advice!? I have been dating this girl for almost three years now, I am almost 21. I recently (last week) got laid off and I now have Free Time. She expects me to spend every waking moment with her, she is 20. She calls me every night before I go to bed to say g-night. She calls all the time when I am with friends. She is always begging for me to drive to go see her. I end up spending all week with her and if I am not able to see her the next day she totally freaks out. She constantly asks if I love her and begs to get married. She has been begging me to marry her since we started dating. I regularly receive texts that she could never love another man etc. I love her to death until she gets into her "mood" where she does the above listed things. Today for example, I have a dentist app at 11 the KU game is on at 12 she has to work at 2. (she lives 20 minutes away) She freaks out that I cannot spend time with her and how the game is more important than she is. This is rediculose the fact that she needs me to be there 24/7 or she doesnt get any sleep etc. This is whats been keeping me from making a commitment and she regularly begs me to make it but thats a whole other story. Women, is there any good advice or is the best solution to break up for a short time or permanently. In conclusion, She is not being an individual anymore and not letting me be one either. -altered quote Crystal, I think you are on to something. A little more information, She is living at home with her parents who make her pay all of her bills etc, she owns her own vehicle and isin the process of bidding on her own home. She did not have any friends until just recently. Now she is hanging out with her boss (friend) from work who happens to be a lesbian. She has not made any good decisions friends wise, in other words trouble, bad relationships etc. Crystal, hopefully this will allow you to pinpoint the problem if you have not already answered it. Thany you.

Can someone provide me with information on handleing this? My mother has been dating this man for about five years now. After the first few years, of the relationship, her boyfriend had become vulgar, inconciderate, and abusive. He would start out with cursing, which lead to yelling. He then began to throw objects with force during arguing with her. This past weekend, he threatned to be physically violent. My mother is a strong women and has had enough. There is children envolved, my sister - 12, my other sister (she is my mother and her boyfriend's child) - 3 and my self. She wants him to move out, but he refuses to leave and finds no reason why she wants him to do so. If anyone can give me so advice on how to help my mother through this and to get him out, please feel free to help!

Where can a mature college guy meet a great girl? I'm going to be in my last year of a five-year program next year. I'm currently studying abroad. Well, I haven't been on a date in over four years. I'm a double major, so a lot of my time is spent on schoolwork. But when I do have free time, what can I do to meet nice girls? I don't want to hook up with drunk girls that act like they're five... I'm looking for women. Something long-term would be ideal. Any advice?

Long Story and I need advice? I have a dad who is abusive, verbally abusive, hates rejection, and thinks he owns my mom. She has been married to him for almost 22 years and during that time it has been hell at home. He's cheated on her almost every year of that marriage, put his hands on all of us. He had a baby on her by another women, just done all types of things. He makes very, very good money but, none of us ever seen it. Our house has always been bare, we hardly had any clothes or had any entertainment. All we ever did was stay home and clean up after him. None of his outside family likes him but, despite all of this no one would speak up about it because, he's crazy and everyone is scared of him. He is an ex cop, who works in construction, and is also in the military who is also a minister in church. Because, of all of this everyone thinks he's such a GREAT guy He's very smart and athletic, he's an over-achieves in everything that he does. He tells them bad things about us and our mom to make people think she's a horrible wife and a cheat. The only thing is this is not true, it couldn't be since we're all locked up in the house with close tabs on everyone not allowed to go anywhere. A year ago he got called to Iraq and my mom decided to divorce him. It is the only way she could without him hurting her. They still have two younger kids so that is why he's able to keep in contact with him and can't break completely free. He's back from Iraq now and crazier then ever! She's got her own apartment and struggling to make it but, happier than ever. They're not completely divorced yet but, seperated so, she's been dating and found a guy who REALLY likes her and makes her so happy. My dad can not accept rejection and claims that no matter what they will always be married because, they took an oath under god. He's not going to let her go. He's been following her around and recently my siblings went to a friends house and my mom was with her boyfriend. During that time he broke into her house. Went through all her stuff and took my little sisters house key. He didn't steal anything, that's how we know it was him. Since, he's in the military she's scared he put some type of recorder or tracking devices in the home. On top of it all he followed her to her boyfriends house and left her a message saying, "I know what he looks like, where he lives and what car he drives. My dad also said, "he's lucky i'm a christian or i'd get him." I'm so scared he might hurt my family. I know my story is long and run-on but,it's because, i'm scared and need help. PLEASE, WHAT SHOULD WE DO? WHAT CAN SHE DO TO BE SAFE? She's making a report to the police but, we don't want to anger him more if he's not gonna go to jail because, then he really might hurt her.

Should I take steroids to get revenge on those that insult me? I'm a shy timid person who has always been afraid of conflict. I have had my share of humiliations, embarrassments, and insults form those who are better than me. I'm 29 years old and I never had an active social life. I'm still a virgin. I've never gone on a date before. I keep asking for advice and I keep getting told that I'm the one that must approach women. I hate approaching women, but if that is what I have to do so be it. It sucks that women get free rides in life and never get rejected. Anyway, I'm willing to talk to women but I'm afraid a woman will insult me and if I defend myself, some bouncer or boyfriend will further humiliate me. I don't have fighting skills or large muscles. What do you think of taking steroids, so I can have the strength to beat the s*** out of anyone that gives me a dirty look? I'd love to be as strong as Triple H and destroy anyone that walks my way. What must I do to cripple people with my fists and put them in a coma?

I really need some guy advice? So me and my ex broke up a long time ago adn about two months later I started to develop a crush on one of his friends. He was really cute and we were both interested in each other so we hung out. A month later me and him hooked up. I just recently got pulled out of school so I no longer see him and we were fine less then a week ago and now every time I try to call him he answers I say "Hey what's up?" and he hangs up on me. I understand why my ex would be mad, but I am a free woman, I can do whatever I want. But why would the guy I hooked up with be mad at me? We supposedly liked each other and now he is screwing me over. He is the only person I have talked to since I've been pulled out of school, so It's not like I started any rumors or told anyone we skipped school to hang out and do stuff. Where did I go wrong? Why is he treating me insolently? Please don't give me any of the you're too young to date cuz I will be 17 soon.

My marriage is falling apart? Help, I need some advice? Its not that I have low self-esteem or that he is tall, dark and handsome and irresistible and I liked the chase. That was not the case at all. From the moment we met, I loved him. I loved his smile, his laugh, how he looked at me. I loved him so much that the feeling was overwhelming. Then we moved in together and I was never more happy. We married in Vegas a few months later. I tried not to think about it but I always thought this would end. Making sure whatever home we purchased that I could afford it on my own and etc. Then he started with going out with his friends all the time, and he would come home at 4 in the morning and we stopped liking each other. I started to hate all his friends and he hated everyone I knew. After 4 years of living together and 8 months of fighting everyday, I asked him to move out. I was fine for the first 3 months and was really looking forward to starting over. I then started to remember how I felt when things were good. How he brought home movies every Tuesday night and they were always chick flicks ( because he knew i would like them) and would make me dinner in bed when I was sick. He would rub my back and always told me that I was the most beautiful woman he had ever seen. I missed him. I called him after 3 months and we starting dating again. Living in separate houses and "dating". I realize that he loves me as much as he is capable of loving someone. Meaning if he ever dates someone else, I don't think he would be able to establish a better relationship with them. Its just who he is. I am stuck now wondering if I should move on or try to fix this? Is that enough of a reason to stay with someone when you know that you will end up by yourself again someday because he is just not capable of having a real relationship? I really need someones advice. If you have any, feel free!

Should I commit suicide since my love life is a complete failure? Question Details: I am considering suicide because of my failed lovelife. I need advice. Here are my problems: 1.I'm a 32 year old virgin who has never kissed a girl 2.Every girl on this planet thinks I'm ugly. 3.Every girl on this planet refuses to go on a date with me. 4.I use tactics from Maxim, FHM, and Stuff to hunt for girls and they don't work. I subscribe to all 3 and have every issue. 5.I hate women because of all the rejection they have given me. 6.I hate women because they use their bodies to get free rides in life. 7.I hate women because they have no difficulties in life. They can get sex anytime they want. If they need a boyfriend, all they have to do is lift up their shirt. What is so difficult about being a woman? I really need some advice here but please don't tell me to seek counseling because I won't do it. It won't put a girl on my arm. Getting a girl is more important than counseling.

emergency, Very long story......I need advice? I have a dad who is abusive, verbally abusive, hates rejection, and thinks he owns my mom. She has been married to him for almost 22 years and during that time it has been hell at home. He's cheated on her almost every year of that marriage, put his hands on all of us. He had a baby on her by another women, just done all types of things. He makes very, very good money but, none of us ever seen it. Our house has always been bare, we hardly had any clothes or had any entertainment. All we ever did was stay home and clean up after him. None of his outside family likes him but, despite all of this no one would speak up about it because, he's crazy and everyone is scared of him. He is an ex cop, who works in construction, and is also in the military who is also a minister in church. Because, of all of this everyone thinks he's such a GREAT guy He's very smart and athletic, he's an over-achieves in everything that he does. He tells them bad things about us and our mom to make people think she's a horrible wife and a cheat. The only thing is this is not true, it couldn't be since we're all locked up in the house with close tabs on everyone not allowed to go anywhere. A year ago he got called to Iraq and my mom decided to divorce him. It is the only way she could without him hurting her. They still have two younger kids so that is why he's able to keep in contact with him and can't break completely free. He's back from Iraq now and crazier then ever! She's got her own apartment and struggling to make it but, happier than ever. They're not completely divorced yet but, seperated so, she's been dating and found a guy who REALLY likes her and makes her so happy. My dad can not accept rejection and claims that no matter what they will always be married because, they took an oath under god. He's not going to let her go. He's been following her around and recently my siblings went to a friends house and my mom was with her boyfriend. During that time he broke into her house. Went through all her stuff and took my little sisters house key. He didn't steal anything, that's how we know it was him. Since, he's in the military she's scared he put some type of recorder or tracking devices in the home. On top of it all he followed her to her boyfriends house and left her a message saying, "I know what he looks like, where he lives and what car he drives. My dad also said, "he's lucky i'm a christian or i'd get him." I'm so scared he might hurt my family. I know my story is long and run-on but,it's because, i'm scared and need help. PLEASE, WHAT SHOULD WE DO? WHAT CAN SHE DO TO BE SAFE? She's making a report to the police but, we don't want to anger him more if he's not gonna go to jail because, then he really might hurt her.

Need some realtionship advice ? Hi everyone thanks for helping before hand! I have been dating my Girlfriend for 8 months. I cant Speak for her but I can at least say I like her as a person more than any girl i've ever experienced or have been attracted to. I've had these feeling since the first night we meet and they keep getting stronger. We are both very attractive people, have never had a fight - not one, both atheist - which is hard to find and is important in the way we live our life and carry out our ethics. We hang out all the time, gone on trips, just got back from xmas with my family, into art, politics, working out ect, ect. Prior to us meeting we were hell bent on staying single and "free" forever. The issue is not our relationship - i think that its excellent but this is for the both of us our first relationship. Out side of prior dates and us both sleeping around a bit at one point, this is all we have to go off of but it just seems to good. Is this what every relationship is like when you find someone that's compatible? At times i feel like im taking our relationship too serious and feel like im missing out of other potential great relationships with women...... but I also know i'm not really compatible - relationship wise (i have tried), with many women for anything more than a one night stand (i'm attractive and in great shape but to into classical music,wine,art. law and political policy - which bores women ) and to feel anyway close to the way i feel about her is a tall order since i have felt this way about her from day one, and find her eternally attractive. Because of our sick sense humor, world view and passionate interest in art and politics/law - which may sound interesting but, when it comes down to it most people are just saying that stuff to sound interesting and after a date i could tell.. Most women and men really are not that deep or passionate about anything and, many people look down on you for not being religious also. Another issue is that i'm going to law school and while she potentially may come with me at the same time she's thinking of moving to europe.While I would love to do that I need to finish law school. Basically from experience would you stay together no matter what as long as its going great? Or are we just enthralled that this is our first real relationships? does a relationship like this happen more once you get in the groove of having a realtionship/s ? For the more experienced people, in hindsight did you make the right decision when having to move to a new job,school ect ect, or wish you should have stayed with your first love cause you never ended up finding better. I guess my worst fear is ending a relationship on such good terms because of conflicting futures; issues which upon graduation we will have to deal with.

For anyone interested? If I am a 28y/o guy who is single, why would I want dating advice from 10 year old little kids on here? Does anyone else think there should be a minimum age to answer questions? I am also curious if there are any single women on this from the Cincinnati area? If so, please feel free to IM me.

Lately dating always seems to end up with just being friends...? Hey, I'm 27 and I've had serious relationships before, but I started looking again recently after being single for over a year and it seems like every woman I meet is really into me at first, but then a week to a month later she drops the "I think we'd be better off as friends" bomb. I consider myself attractive, financially secure, very respectful, and mature. I usually meet people online, but not always. Last person I was dating decided seemingly overnight that she didn't have those "feelings" for me (in a dating sense, not love- I know that takes time). We had dated about 2 weeks and talked for about a week online beforehand. I know it wasn't because of someone else because she still wants to spend most of her free time with me as friends. She also said that she wasn't sure if her feelings would ever change for me. I just seem to have a hard time making it past dating lately. What gives? Too clingy? Is there a such thing as being too nice? Any advice would be appreciated!

How can people judge young moms? I think that there are alot of very rude people out there. I am a young mother myself, being 19 and preggo with baby # 2. However I have my place, I am married, I have my associates, working towards my bachelors, I go to night school, so no I do not leave my son with anyone. , I want to say that not all teen mothers are bad...in fact I know alot of older women who have kids, leave them with sitters and go out alot. Because they are used to that life and used to being free to go about themselves. How many women do you know that do nopt have a single idea of what their kidas are doing? At least these young mothers me included, have enough common sense to come in and ask for advice- which may i remind all of you that is what this is for.... And furthermore, how many are out there degrading us young TRYING moms and you barely work a low income job have barely a GED in their corner and are not married or even seriously dating? How can you judge people who just want to ask for advice? I am not judging I am just asking you to think of others and askingyou why you look down on people for what age they have their children. Dont you think you should judge them by other standards, if you have to judge them at all. Judge them by how well taken care of their kids are, how adjusted they are, Doesnt anyone ever ask, well how are the kids? They only ask well god how old is their mom? My mom was 18 when she had me, and alot of my friends' mom's looked down on her when i was in school but when they got to know her through the schoola nd me, they got over themselves. I think maybe people have to realize that there is a differnece between being young and being immature. I am immature in some things. Like defending myself. If you say i am immature for this, then so be it. But I want to point out that while you are telling me to grow up, my children are growing up. Healthy, happy, and taken care of. And while I may still have alot to learn, most new mom make mistakes even 30 yr old p.s. in case I havent been clear. I was a 16 yr old who got pregnant. I had my son at 17 . and didnt marry for over a year after that. So while you may commend me for being 18 or whatever that comment was...I was a young one. I still am a young one. oh and I barely juggle. I had my 1st degree before my first was born...I was advanced in school, and finished early. I now go 2 nights a week. I dont consider that alot of time away from my son as it a total of 4 hours a week. So yes, I did have school out of the way. Now I am going for me, To have something to fall back on in case something ever happens and I do need to work. School is now my back up plan. I am 1st and formost a mom, and I want people to understand. Plus I do not think that spending 4 hours a week away from home makes me bad....do you?

No car in San Francisco? I am moving to San Francisco this summer and am thinking about going car-free. I know I will love the massive amounts of money I will save but I feel like I will be losing some independence. I am a person who likes freedom to move about and am a night owl. I know public transit is supposed to be good but I have also heard it is unreliable. I also worry about dating women when I don't have a car. Does anyone already do this in SF or have any advice?

Any capricorn men with sound advice for me? I'm a leo woman who is in a love with a Capricorn man--but I dont think he knows it. He courted me passionately and we went out on occasional dates. I never once told him I like him for im afraid of getting hurt.The thing is, he calls when he's free and is always reserved. Not that I mind..but Im just confused, not knowing if he actually likes being and wants to be with me. We have been intimate and have a sexual relationship--Does this mean anything to Capricorn men? I dont know if he's serious enough with me. Any sound advice pls. Kindest regards,

Anyone have some advice for a mother in need of some? My son, an average student, and drug and alcohol free to my knowledge, whom up to this point was an extremely trustworthy and obediant young man has recently completely shattered any remnants of trust between us and disrespected me on a level I could not have imagined. To give a brief synopsis, my teenage son recently started dating a girl considerably younger than himself, and though we may have teased him and questioned his motives on the matter, there ultimately wasn't much to be done to keep him from dating her and eventually it was just accepted. He was spending absurd amounts of time at her house, and as such I implemented the rule that he could only stay out after five on weekends, while on weekdays he had to be home for dinner. To skirt this he began to bring her back home with him, and out of the blue began spending time and sleeping over at his male friend's houses. But I did not find this suspicious because he was a good kid, and I trusted him. It all more or less came crashing down when he forgot to call one night, and I, angered I searched madly to locate him. The lack of an update had made me upset enough that I decided I was going to go pick him up from his friend's house. When asked which friend's house he was at and what the address was, he said he didn't know...but by this point I knew he was at his girlfriend's house, keeping in mind it's about one a.m. At this point I blew up. I completely lost control. I asked what # he was calling from and when I found out it was his gf's mother's phone, I demanded to be put on the line with the woman. When I had her on the line, she quite blatantly lied to me and it became clear that she was enabling my son's deceit. I'm not sure what an appropriate course of action would be at this point, does anyone have any similar situations or advice on the matter?

I am a single guy 20 years old, never have had a girlfriend. How do I find a good girl for me? I am a 20 y/o guy, I am decent looking but, I have never had a girlfriend before. I dated a girl in H.S. on and off but she never seemed interested in me. I have always envied all these guys who I see with these gorgeous girls and I just don't understand why I can't or don't have a relationship like them. I get nervous around women for some reason and I don't know why. Sometimes I know a girl is interested in me but I am just to nervous or shy to say anything to her. I just hope one day I can find the girl of my dreams. How can strike up conversations and ask girls out. If anyone has any advice feel free to give me some!!!

Unique Marriage Twist, Can It Work? Well after separating for awhile, my husband and I talked long and hard about what we want in life. I want to experience more people, including men but non sexually and I want my husband to remain faithful to me so I basically offerred this. If he would let me date other men then I would keep him (my husband) completely satisfied sexually. I would literally be at his beck and call and I would not have sex with the men I date. I know it is strange and unique but if we are willing to pioneer this and work out the bugs ourselves, is it worth a shot? The alternative is us losing the amazing connection we currently have forever. He came to this marriage having slept with or dated over 50 women and I had been with 3. There is just something missing that I seek yet he is happy as long as he has his "needs" met. We are free and open people so for us this seems like it could work but opinions and advice help so fire away. Perhaps others have been faced with similar situations. I appreciate all the answer, good and bad :) Well my husband will allow me to have sex with men as long as he can be involved so that isn't an issue. Yes this is a crazy proposal, that is why I am asking for input. Pont is, my husband loves me so much he would rather have me like this, than not at all. He has for 9 years not fulfilled any of his promises to change and so if he won't, then I need connection with others and he knows this. We have had a rocly relationship the whole time but the passion is intense. We both are open about how we feel so nobody is in the dark. rocky, not rocly

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Have you dated someone with genital herpes?? Please help I need advice!!!!? I do not have herpes, but was informed by a friend that the person I'm trying to date has them. I did not even take it seriously, until I realized how hard this person was making it for me to get with them, despite the obvious attraction. Then it hit me that something was wrong, and herpes did not seem unlikely anymore. Is it typical for someone with herpes to avoid the person trying to date them when they already have expressed a mutual attraction??? I have not slept with very many people, and never want an STD. But I'm in love with this person, and I want to be with them. Is it possible to have a sexual relationship and not get the STD? Obviously it will involve very safe sex. What if the sex is between 2 women? Does that make it safer or not? Are there really times when the virus is not at all active and cannot be passed?? Does it get better the longer you have it? Are the outbreaks always bad? Are any of you virus free but in longterm relationship with someone who has herpes? HELP!

Would you date this guy (not me)? This question is for adult females only.? You are single. He makes you laugh. He tells you that you are beautiful. He tells you that if there is anything that you ever need, then just let him know. He tells you that he likes you. He gets you flowers. He buys you food. He helps you in your school/college/university work. He wants to play with you. He shows you magic tricks. He is short but slightly taller than you. He tells you that he cares about you. He doesn't stare at other women when he is with you. He puts your arms around you as if trying to protect you. He holds your hand when you walk with him. He offers you free advice. He tells you that you are very special to him. He gets good grades. He helps you with anything that you ask of him. . . . Please state your age.

need advice right now? I am in atlanta and my boyfriend is in Chicago. We just had a falling out and things are not on good terms with us because of it. I have been trying to be patient and supportive of him while he deals with various family and personal issues but since he is being pulled in every direction he is short with me and I am growing tired of it and want it to all come to an end. I love him though because of the man that he is. Sometimes good people have a couple hard knocks you know. My question is should I fly him down to see me to spend a evening at the hotel that we started dating at together to recconect? Or do I let it ride? I have a free airline ticket to use and we have been dating for a 1 1/2 years. Is this appropriate for a woman to do or no? He really could use a break and get out of town and we really need to see each other our relationship is in trouble

Advice about an ex who keeps violating my restraining order.? In 2007 I got a restraining order on my ex husband after a very abusive marriage. Its a complete restraining order - no contact - no writing, no calling, no third party calling - NOTHING. Since I've recieved it he's violated it at least 5 times. Here's a little bit how this all played out so you get a better idea. Early 2007 he was arrested and charged with 4 counts of battery and 2 counts of disordly conduct. He served 6 months and got 3 years probabtion. Mid 2007 I got the restraining order and less than 2 months later he called me - got charged with violating and was revoked of probabtion. End of 2007 he beat his aunt - got 6 months of jail time and 3 years probation. End of 2007 he sent me a letter in the mail - violation of a restrining order - probation revoked. Early 2008 he used my social security number to open accounts - arrested and served 6 months for 2 counts of theft (he is now considered a repeate offeder) Probation - 3 years. Mid 2008 - He beat up yet another female and recieved another domestic charge - gets an additional 2 months. Mid 2008 - He uses my social security number yet again and gets revoked of probation - hes sentenced to 6 months in jail. End of 2008 - He calls me 4 times from the jail he is in, has another inmate call me once, then sends me a disturbing "love" letter in the mail - I report it to police - he is charged with knowling violationg a restrining order - repeter and intimation of a victim - repeater. Today he was given a 5000 dollar SIGNATURE bond and was freed in MY HOME TOWN with nothing but a slap on the wrist. What the hell is going on? What the hell am I supposed to do? This man will not leave me alone and the judges and DA will not do anything to help - they just keep slapping him on the wrist and telling him to leave me alone. My fiance went to the court date today and when the judge told my ex to leave me alone, he LAUGHED! Seriously? I fear for my life, and not only mine but my sons as well. This letter he wrote me was demented - it was sick and twisted - he was saying things like "I'll be in your life no matter what" and "I still love you, you'll always be my pookie" What am I supposed to do??!! I've called the police, the women's sheltar, the DA... EVERYONE!! Who do I go to next? How do i make these people see that this man is never going to leave me alone. I need advice, and I need it now. Extra Info - I'm in Wisconsin and I CANNOT leave the city or the state, my ex has already tried to have me arrested for kidnapping when I took my son to see his Grandmother in Michigan. My ex husband never sees my son, he's seen him maybe 4 months out of his life and once since then and my son is 4. What can I do? Please... help...

IHow do you know if a guy is just in it for the sex. I want answers from guys, but ladies feel free to answer I'm a woman "seeing a guy" Just started dating after bad break up Finished college Not that experienced Good intution doesn't want to get burned Like guy...a lot I like sex But I like him enough to want to see him afterwards So guys...any advice besides just asking him...signs perhaps

I have a strange situation with my "friend" and need your advice. Please help!? I have a friend who I've been dating for 4 months as of today. 6 weeks ago I lost my job & then 4 weeks ago he lost his job and asked if he could come to California with me. So we are now in California and live together. I consider him my boyfriend and don't want to date other people. He is on myspace frequently talking to other women and says he is just trying to make new friends in our new area. He also says that I'm not his girlfriend, that both of us are free to see other people, and that he is not looking for a girlfriend. He isn't seeing other people and is home with me every night. He doesn't have any money so assume that will change when he does. Yesterday he said that I need to make a choice if I want to continue seeing him with the situation as is and me not being his girlfriend or if he should go back to WA. He says he doesn't want to get hurt so is holding his feelings back and that we can stick it out and see if his feelings get stronger. What should I do?

date with a lady? I got my hairdressers telephone number (IWe are 21) She gave me her number but it was wrong, She found out so she gave her number again to someone that I knew that cut hair at her a week later. she went on holiday alone for a week so I did not call her. (Heard from friend shes' going way) Yesterday night I called her and she sounded suprised and clad to hear from me? I aksed her if we can go for cappacino this weekend but she can't her sisters baby batism in on. She said but next weekend I am free so I asked how about Thursday. She said yes but I'll sms you the morning just to confim. She then named a fancy/cool resturant in our town for us to go to our first meeting/date and said we can meet there. 1. Does she sound intrested? 2. She sounds and looks like she's a independant women since she go on holdiday alone and said we must each drive there and meet up. How do I greet her then when we meet at the place? 3. Is it then a date? 4. Need advice on all 3 points. thx

Urgent dating question? I am somewhat seeing a man who is much older than me and the other night we almost got intimate. He wonders why such a young woman would want him. He is also seeing a woman whom he says he is not in Love with, tells me she is ugly and that she is too possesive and that he is free to do what he wants but he almost seems afraid of her and yet he still does things with her. We play games with each other, such as not answering the phone purposely. ( I do it to keep him on his toes) I don't know why he does it. We got very intimate the other night but he hasn't called me yet, should I be worried? Maybe I could do better but I never seem to attract the right kind of guy. Should I just forget about him? We have a great time together and we have alot of chemistry. Any advice would be appreciated. P.S It has been 2 days and he hasn't called, I know we had a great time so whats the deal?

Dangit Man, I Need More Advice..? Took this girl out on a date once. We had a pretty good time. We make plans to hang out again over spring break. Later as I'm talking to her, it turns out she will be too busy over the break to hang out with me, which was true because the woman has A LOT of things going on. The week before the break, I tell her that when she has free time, just give me a call and we'll do something. I see her today at this event that she was in charge of (a friend I work with asked me to be on his team). I see her, but we don't get to talk to much. She made a couple of attempts, but she was in charge of the event. I ask her how her past couple of weeks were and she says that its been busy and that she's been hanging with friends. Should I try to call her tonight to see what going on and to see if her and I can do something again? How many of you would just say the heck with it and move on? Hey Graxy, its not that I give up easily. There are details that I'm not telling you guys and I'm also just reading between the lines...

Advice would be appreciated!? Recently, I've been seeing a man, a man who is living with another woman. He's the mother of her child. And from what he says, they're unhappy together, we weren't in anything serious, so I accepted a date invitation from another man. A man who was free, and single, without any restrictions. The first man found out about the date, questioned me about it, and I told him that yes, I was planning on going, and he became angry, and told me that if I was going to be with him, he wanted me to be with ONLY him. And we spoke briefly about it, and I don't at all think it's fair for him to ask me to commit to him while he's got another woman at home. A homewrecker or whore, I'm not, this man approached me, and I didn't find out about his girlfriend and child until after I'd developed feelings for him. But his situation creates special circumstances, and I deserve better than to commit to someone, and always be second best. How do I explain this to him?

whats a MOM to do????? I am a 43 yr old woman and I have 4 grown children and I am now raising my daughters children... I have had one since she was 4 days old and now she is in jail my daughter and I have the 51/2 mo old daughter too... I feel overwhelmed and jes, when do I get a life??? I don't want the babies to go into the system and the one I have had since she was 4 days old she is like my own but now with the 5 1/2 mo old it's so hard and I have no clue what to do?? Any words of advice?? Feel free to contact me at DnanaMama@aol.com i would love to hear from others... I was planning to get back into dating and searching for my own happiness and now I fear I will never have a life....

I recently met a nigerian man on a Christian website. , he lives in Houston ,TX and says he has his papers, we have a lot in common, and he seems to be on the up and up, we have only been talking a few days, he calls regularly and seems to be genuine. However, I have heard so many things about nigerian men trying to scam women. He has not asked me for anything, and he is planning to come visit me in a few weeks. He works for a major airline so he travels for free. My question is before I get to involved how can I know if he is real and not up to something? Any women on her ever dated a nigerian man? Oh and if it helps he has been in the states for 10 yrs.. any help or advice will help. in response to stephanie, he is divorced and has papers. He seems to be consistent in the things he tells me, because i constantly bring them up again. I'm no fool and usually know when someone is lying, because i have had scammers approach me before. This man has asked me for nothing.